DO YOU SOAPY?

DO YOU SOAPY?

 

Does it sound awkward that I decided to adopt that word?

 

Well, you know what it is...he even publicise it and many of us danced to it, proudly. Many even placed the song as number one on their play list.

 

Really, how do you feel when you are done masturbating?

Could you remember how it all started?

 

I have had the privileged of working with a lot teenagers who started to grow resentment towards themselves after coming back to their senses and realizing the dangers they had put themselves in after signing up for masturbation.

 

You have to hide and make sure no one is looking or coming.

You can't just sit alone in a room without hearing the call to masturbate.

You can't just focus on your personal study again because the call will come and you just have to answer and fulfil its wish.

When your mind can't think up good naked picture to aid your masturbation, you result to sourcing for pornographic materials.

 

Oh! What a life.

 

You have gotten so deeply rooted in this activity that your brain has been rewired...you now see masturbation as no big deal.

After all, it's better than engaging in premarital sex, you say.

Some even say porn doesn't hurt. Jes! How does that even add up?

 

Some even decided that since they are in a relationship and have decided not to have sex, they could masturbate...then they begin to explore.

 

Well, have you ever tried stopping having realised that it's making your life miserable?

Yes, it makes life miserable and it sucks all form of productivity out of you.

It steals your time

It steals your friend.

It's steals your privacy

It steals your potentials.

It steals your genuine affection for your spouse.

It steals YOU away from your true self.

 

The question is...

1. What other negative effects are attached with masturbation?

2. How do you think a teenager can overcome the urge to masturbate?

 

Teenager: “I have tried so hard sir but I am finding myself indulging in it. I am getting tired of it, sir”

Me: Seriously? (sarcastically). Don’t worry. Let’s get you off the monster once and for all.

 

Masturbation is a virus to your system; it is a virus which has affected your default setting and there is need to jettison that your old default setting and then take up a new one.

 

Take charge of your mind!

To take charge of your mind and get yourself off, you have to undergo a mental change and not just an emotional change. Feeling sad or sobbing won't change it.

If your desire for freedom in your mind is not strong enough, you won’t get free. Your desire must be strong enough to the point where every part of your system spring up to action. Your eyes , your heart, your hands... all becomes discipline... every part of you becomes disciplined and at alert fight for your freedom.

 

When you have dealt with your mind...

Then, let’s do the 30 DAYS CHALLENGE.

 

Grab a calendar, either the one on the wall or the one on your phone, (I would prefer a hardcopy calendar) and a pen. Also get in touch in someone you could confine in, someone who can be trusted, to help keep a tab on you.

Get yourself under a strong conscious conditioning.

 

Any day you go without masturbating, go ahead and tick (√ ) for that day. That’s victory.

Any day you masturbate, tick (×) for that. (I wouldn’t promise that it won’t happen for a start).

 

However, you will need to fight hard and smart.

Make it a date with that person whom you have chosen to keep a tab on you daily. Discuss what transpired and how you fought each day.

You can be freed. You should be in charge! 

Written by: Amb. Babatunde